It is troubling isn’t it to go through a rough patch or season in your marriage?
We all know everyone goes through it but somehow when we are undergoing it ourselves, it feels like a gargantuan weight on our shoulders.
What happens when you see signs that God is restoring your marriage? Would you be able to recognize what it looks like?
I am here to share with you what it can look like even if it seems unassuming to the naked eye or heart.
Truth is, God, works in mysterious ways and can show up even in the most unlikely ways.
So, let’s get into these signs that will help you and your spouse’s marriage even better than it was! I have also included a bonus prayer that can help restore your marriage.
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Summary of 21 Signs God Is Restoring Your Marriage
- 1. You Start To Appreciate The Little Things
- 2. You Mature Emotionally
- 3. You Have A Sense Of Peace
- 4. You Are Surrounded By Good Family And Friends
- 5. Both Of You Can Forgive One Another
- 6. You Both Pray For Each Other
- 7. You And Your Spouse Listen To Each Other
- 8. You Trust Each Other
- 9. You Look Forward To Getting Physically Intimate With Them
- 10. Actions Match Their Words
- 11. You Both Are Accountable
- 12. Your Relationship Is In A Healthy State
- 13. Your Spouse Is Willing To Do Anything For You
- 14. You Feel More Loved And Appreciated
- 15. You Fight Well
- 16. Have A Common Future Vision Of Your Family Life
- 17. You And Your Partner Are Optimistic About Life
- 18. You Are More Intentional With The Time You Spend With Each Other
- 19. You Can Have Tough Conversations
- 20. Your Spouse Agrees To Get External Help
- 21. When You Are The First Person Your Spouse Wants To Share Everything With
21 Signs God Is Restoring Your Marriage
1. You Start To Appreciate The Little Things
Perhaps it is your partner coming home to you every night without fail or maybe it’s them making a hot coffee for you (just the way you like it).
But, you start to notice all the small things, however mundane that selfless act is.
For me, it’s that cup of coffee he brings me every morning which he places directly on my son’s Paw Patrol book (haha, too cute!)
2. You Mature Emotionally
You remember that relationships are not just sunshine and roses all the time.
You understand that there will always be tough conversations/ events that may come to plague your marriage.
But these are opportunities to become better spouses to each other.
3. You Have A Sense Of Peace
There is a sense of calmness and peace when your significant other is either around you or away from you.
You are no longer antsy about their whereabouts or need them to validate your insecurities.
You are happy for them to pursue anything they want in their alone time.
4. You Are Surrounded By Good Family And Friends
There will be times when self-doubt and feelings of wanting to give up on your marriage will creep in.
But God sends you these signs that He is helping your marriage by ensuring you are surrounded by Christian family and friends.
They remind you that your marriage is worth fighting for.
They may even provide you with the necessary resources.
For example, therapy/counselling with a pastor so that you and your partner can move forward the right way.
5. Both Of You Can Forgive One Another
Despite the hurt and betrayal, God sends you frequent reminders to forgive one another, just as He once forgave all of us.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:32
6. You Both Pray For Each Other
Prayer provides much guidance in our lives. Imagine praying for each other and even together as a family.
This intimate time fosters unity and spiritual growth that will help strengthen your marriage.
Prayers also serve as a reminder to trust God in uncertain times.
7. You And Your Spouse Listen To Each Other
Admittedly, when young kids arrive in a family, it’s hard to carve out time for each other.
It is easier to talk over each other or even distract ourselves with tasks we need to complete instead of having intentional conversations.
And that is exactly why your marriage fell apart in the first place, isn’t it?
But when you spend time engaging with one another and being interested in your spouse’s day, it creates a bond that can withstand all sorts of challenges.
Your partner feels validated and appreciated.
8. You Trust Each Other
There is such distrust and disappointment at the heart of a broken marriage.
However, one way for God to show you a sign that He is restoring your marriage is for you to begin trusting each other again.
Having a new sense of trust in the relationship allows you to be vulnerable and open. This form of intimacy trumps physical intimacy.
9. You Look Forward To Getting Physically Intimate With Them
Sex is a fundamental part of marriage.
It is not only life-giving but extremely pleasurable as it is a gift from God for married couples.
You find yourself getting excited at the thought of being intimate with your partner as it helps to strengthen your marital unity.
10. Actions Match Their Words
When you are working on repairing a broken marriage, it is important to ensure you are not just paying lip service.
But in fact, take the appropriate actions to demonstrate to your partner that you mean change and want change.
This is another way for your partner to trust you with their open but slightly wounded heart.
11. You Both Are Accountable
Being accountable for your relationship means owning your past and future mistakes.
Look, mistakes/ bad things are going to happen in your marriage but if you want to go the distance with your spouse, you have to take full responsibility for your actions.
It will be easier for both of you to then find an amicable solution that is fair to both sides.
12. Your Relationship Is In A Healthy State
What a healthy relationship is defined as is unique to each couple. But what does it look like for some?
- – Your partner encourages you to spend time with your loved ones and family
- – You feel physically safe with them
- – You do not have to be with your significant other 24 hours a day
- – Your partner doesn’t force you to be physically intimate when you do not want to
- – He/ she respects your thoughts and opinions
13. Your Spouse Is Willing To Do Anything For You
I remember when I was going through a miscarriage with endless bleeding, my husband was an absolute darling.
He took care of our precocious toddler while I rested to get my energy back.
Not only did he do that but he was kind enough to wash my period undies as I was bleeding so heavily without me even asking.
Talk about an amazing man who is willing to do the hard stuff.
When they go above and beyond to be there for you, let them.
Don’t try to be a big hero and pretend you are strong. Being vulnerable is okay so your spouse can take care of you.
14. You Feel More Loved And Appreciated
You never have to look outside your relationship to feel warmth and care.
When you come home, your spouse is excitedly awaiting your arrival. Sounds too good to be true?
Well, after 16 years with my husband, we still feel the same way about each other.
Especially because we have less time for each other these days with a toddler in tow and is expecting a baby girl soon!
15. You Fight Well
What is a relationship without its fights?
Every marriage will have disagreements ranging from Why didn’t you do the dishes to
Why are you wrestling with our child at 10 pm when he should be ready for bed?
Not sure if you remember this but fundamentally, both of you are very different people who come from very different upbringings.
Naturally, you get testy with each other as you continue to push boundaries in your relationship and find your flow.
But now that you may fight more, you also know how to fight well.
You no longer look at the issue as him vs me but as a team.
How can we solve this issue together? What are we going to do as a family?
16. Have A Common Future Vision Of Your Family Life
When your marriage was falling apart, it was easy to think of the many ways you were going to live individual lives.
But when God is showing you signs He is restoring your marriage, you slowly start to envision a family life that is united.
You start to see your family attending weekly Mass together followed by sending the kids off to Sunday School.
17. You And Your Partner Are Optimistic About Life
Having a renewed sense of hope in your relationship can do wonders.
Suddenly, you feel like you have a schoolgirl crush on your husband and you start to do all the things you used to before marriage.
For example, you start to cook him his favorite meals, he buys you flowers on a random Wednesday, or even just an appreciative text telling you how much he adores you.
Here, you begin to trust God when it looks impossible.
18. You Are More Intentional With The Time You Spend With Each Other
It is easy to say you are spending time with your other half when you are both slumped in front of the TV watching Netflix. But are you spending time?
We often use other means like the TV or playing with our handphones to fill the void of having to talk to our partners.
But when you have a new zest for life with your spouse, you want to have intentional conversations with them beyond how is your day.
You genuinely care about the challenges they are facing at work or an issue they are having with their friends etc.
The topic can range from superficial to meaningful but the key is to listen.
Not with the idea of providing solutions but to provide a listening ear as after all, we all have solutions to our problems.
We always just needed someone to hear us out.
19. You Can Have Tough Conversations
A lot of us tend to sweep things under the carpet when things get hard. But a problem ignored is a problem magnified.
When God is on your side, you will realize you can have those tough conversations.
Such as establishing boundaries with in-laws, crushes on people at work, or feeling depressed without one party biting another one’s head off.
Instead, you treat it as a person that is sharing their deepest and most vulnerable self with you and you help them find solutions together as a couple (only if they want to).
20. Your Spouse Agrees To Get External Help
There will be times when the both of you going at a problem will not be sufficient.
You will need to call on external help whether it be your local pastor or a licensed therapist.
God created these people/ tools for a reason so that He can help restore your marriage once again.
21. When You Are The First Person Your Spouse Wants To Share Everything With
God created marriage for a reason so that we do not ever have to feel lonely as human beings.
With that said, it is a gift and a privilege to be the person your spouse feels closest to.
He/ she wants to share every nitty gritty detail like whether your child has been potty trained as you were away at work or whether the dog ate your shoe (I hope not).
You are essentially their best friend and they love spending time with you!
Bonus Prayer:
Dear God, please help to continue showing us signs to restore my marriage. I trust and fully believe in your timing and grace. Help us to look to each other whenever challenges come our way instead of blaming each other.
Teach us to treat each other with the dignity and love that you have shown to us. I ask that we continuously forgive each other when hurtful things are said during our tough moments.
In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
How Do I Know If God Is Restoring My Marriage?
I have listed 21 signs above that let you know if He is helping you restore your marriage.
Read it and let me know if any of it is something you have experienced in your relationship!
How Do You Let Go And Let God Fix Your Marriage?
By trusting God in his entirety but also knowing that you need to do your part.
This could mean trying to salvage the marriage such as seeking therapy (if you do not have a willing spouse, try to attend it yourself).
The beauty of our amazing Abba is that He gave us free will.
But that also means we have to put in the work and sometimes, it’s hard to do the right thing.
Can God Fix A Broken Marriage?
Absolutely! He has proven many times to perform miracles and He will not let you down.
Just continue to trust in Him by uniting in prayer daily (ideally as a couple).
Will God Restore My Marriage After Separation?
Yes! Sometimes a temporary separation may just be what you and your spouse need to see things.
So, don’t be sad that this is the case. Look at is an opportunity to start over.
When Should You Let Your Marriage Go?
If it becomes abusive, either physically, mentally, or sexually. God doesn’t want you to be treated poorly.
You are created in His image after all.
So, if you are experiencing any of these, please contact your local support center here and get help fast.
No marriage is worth saving if you are putting your life or your children’s lives in danger.
Lasting Thoughts
And there you have it folks, 21 signs God is restoring your marriage.
Rest assured that He is always helping you grow in your marriage but it must sometimes come from some pain you both have to experience.
Remember, the goal of marriage is not for you to be eternally happy. That is a complete fallacy!
The point of marriage is to grow.
And having this goal is more tangible than us seeking our happily ever after all the time as it involves you being open to changing who you and your spouse are for the betterment of others.
So, let me know in the comment section below if you have personally witnessed any of the signs in your marriage. I would love to hear from you!
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