Girlfriend Gaining Weight – 18 PERSONALLY Tested Solutions

Girlfriend gaining weight?

Well, you have arrived at the perfect place. Why?

Because I know full well what it is like to be an overweight girlfriend!

I bet seeing her get unhealthy can be frustrating for the boyfriend.

You must be feeling hopeless to some extent.

You are also trying to figure out how to address this VERY delicate situation, as it could derail the entire relationship.

I certainly get it.

I will walk you through some reasons and practical solutions you will find helpful in your relationship.

So, let’s get straight to it!

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Girlfriend Gaining Weight – 10 Causes  & 18 Solutions

1. She Is Depressed

Why did I go straight here? Well, I was once here, as I mentioned.

When my boyfriend (now husband) first met, I was a healthy 110-pound girl. Unfortunately, I became depressed when I worked in a high-stress environment.

I ate my feelings.

It wasn’t pretty, I assure you. Everyone in the world told me I had gained weight and what had happened, but I was too ashamed to tell them why.

2. She Has Abandoned Her Wellness

Let’s be honest here. At the start of the relationship, we all want to put our best foot forward by looking our best.

So, we worked out more; we ate healthily. But once you get into a relationship, you tend to let those things slip instead of spending more time together.

This is why it is easy for her to pile on those pounds.

3. You Gained As Well

Research has shown that if one partner has unhealthy habits, the other will follow suit. Partner influence has a substantial overall impact on post-relationship weight gain.

For example, if your partner doesn’t eat till noon, you will want to follow suit to accompany them. But waiting till much later to eat might cause her to binge.

4. Eating Out More Frequently

Girlfriend gaining weight?

Well, what do you do on most dates? Eat, am I right? A tonne of sugar and sodium is added to everyday meals, and women tend to gain more weight than men.

It is biological.

4. Drink More

Alongside eating out, what accompanies you? Wine and beer. Yup, I get it. It’s nice to relax with some alcohol.

Unfortunately, these empty calories have a cruel impact on our waistlines alongside other adverse effects.

5. Lack Of Sleep

Is your girlfriend gaining weight?

According to the National Library of Medicine, insufficient sleep hurts weight. It can lead to excessive snacking, especially for carbohydrates and fatty food.

When I was working my corporate job, I barely slept. I would leave work at 8 am and return only at midnight most days.

One day, I even worked alongside my bosses till 5 am. Only to return at 8 am the next day.

Do you think healthy food was a priority at that point? No, convenience was a priority, i.e., something I could eat on the go as I struggled to finish my reports.

6. She Has An Eating Disorder

Okay, confession time as a former fat person.

I grew up fat and was often ridiculed by my own family and friends. They were supposedly ‘well-meaning,’ but it took a toll on my self-esteem.

It made me binge eat and starve most days. I ate just a tiny bowl of fruit and warm milk at night as my dinner.

Yes, I was highly skinny at that stage, but I was also extremely unhealthy. Pictures below as proof!

I landed in the hospital from having major gastric pains and was told I needed to eat regularly again to ensure this episode did not repeat.

What did I do? I ate everything in sight. Nothing could stop me.

As a result, I gained 30 pounds in one year.

This form of dieting did not do well for my mental health, but I was glad my boyfriend was supportive and loved me throughout.

7. New Life Change

Is she going through a new life change? For example, did her parents divorce? Is she at a new job?

Having unexpected curve balls may throw her off her natural course of caring for herself.

8. She Is Taking Medicine

Some medicines can have an impact on her weight. She might not have told you she is on it because she doesn’t feel ready to share.

The only way to find out if this is the case is to ask her honestly and not be judgmental about her answer.

9. Hormonal Issues

I tell you solemnly, it’s not easy being a woman. We have all sorts of hormonal problems like PCOS or hypothyroidism, which can lead to excessive weight gain.

If this is genuinely her problem, you need to support her instead of telling her that it’s just calories in, calories out. Our bodies do not work the same.

Having some empathy for her in her current condition can lead to a harmonious long-term relationship.

10. Stress

Chronic stress has an impact on weight. Cortisol rises when stressed, which has been shown to increase your hunger for calorie-dense food.

All is not lost, though.

The same studies also indicate that if you can manage stress through something as simple as breathing exercises.

It can make you lose more weight than those who receive the standard dietary advice.

Girlfriend Gaining Weight – 18 Solutions

1. Have Empathy

I have to give credit where credit is due. My boyfriend is highly active and has always been at a healthy weight all his life.

He aces every medical examination we do yearly.

And has never forced me to lose weight, even when I was at my heaviest. Never made me feel less than.

He was just there whenever I would whine about how unhealthy I had gotten. Only when asked would he share some tips and tricks. Never unsolicited.

Mind you, we had met when I was at my skinniest and most attractive self.

He was and is the best boyfriend ever – so I married him!

That form of empathy and understanding as a partner inspires me to lose weight on my terms.

2. Ask Her What She Needs

Sure, you can approach the topic of her gaining weight but do it to help or even facilitate her journey.

Newsflash – she knows she has gained some weight. Her clothes are tighter; she feels sluggish and tired all the time.

Ask her if she needs help. For example, maybe she feels compelled to eat at fast food restaurants because you enjoy it.

Or perhaps she finds the gym overwhelming and needs to learn how to start.

My boyfriend signed up for the gym with me as a show of support, and there were many times I would cancel on him – oh, because I wasn’t feeling it.

He never judged me, and instead, he would still carry on.

I admired his discipline, which spilled over to me indirectly.

3. Be Realistic About The Goals You Have Together

Constantly worried about gaining weight?

Well, it’s ludicrous to cut out all eating out and cook everything from scratch. Come on, we all have jobs, families, and responsibilities.

But one simple change in habit, such as cooking one meal at home once a week, is what she might need to help her get on track again.

4. Make The Weight Gain An ‘Us’ Problem

It’s easy for you to pinpoint her flaws in the form of her weight. I assure you that doing that will not help her, and she will then retaliate by hiding her meals from you.

Focus on how the weight limits your physical activities as a couple.

Let her know that you are all into helping her in any way she desires.

5. Reassure Her

I remember feeling so insecure at my highest weight. Like I said, everyone, including my husband’s grandmother, made a pass at how fat I had gotten.

It was hurtful, BUT it was the truth.

One thing, though, is that my excellent partner never let me feel like he didn’t love me, and that reassurance was the tipping point in my health and wellness journey.

6. Pick The Right Moment To Talk

Weight is a highly sensitive matter for women. You don’t want to talk to her about it when someone just made a comment or if she is on her period and is highly hormonal.

Also, ask yourself how you would like her to address the situation if the roles were reversed. Empathy goes a long way in relationships.

7. Get Creative With Dates

Dating doesn’t always have to involve food. How about signing up for weekly rock climbing sessions or an art class?

You will still see each other in a setting but it doesn’t have to include munching.

Adding variety to your date activities can spice up some of the conversations and, in turn, strengthen your relationship.

8. Focus On Wellness

Exercise doesn’t have only to include the gym. It can be as simple as incorporating a 15-minute walk right after your date.

Start small so that it is sustainable for her and you.

9. Shop Together

Make a date out of shopping for groceries together! Google healthy versions of your favorite restaurant meals and do that at home.

It sounds way more romantic when it’s just the two of you cooking a warm meal than in a packed restaurant.

Remember to park far away from the grocery shop to get some extra steps in!

10. Encourage Sleep Hygiene

Commit to each other about getting 8 hours of sleep daily. It is as simple as texting each other at 10 pm to hit the sack.

11. Agree On A Fitness Goal

You can commit to running a 5k together, join a rollerblade competition in your town, or enter a rock-climbing competition.

Even something as simple as that can strengthen your bond. In return, both of you will get to do fun things instead of focusing on the number on the scale.

12. Cheat As A Couple

Hold up, there! I am not referring to affairs but cheating days when it comes to food!

Are you interested in trying that fantastic fried chicken that opened up down the street?

Agree on a day to do it together and remind her that it’s just one meal and will not derail her overall progress in her health goals.

13. Celebrate Wins

When you hear celebration, you immediately think of cake and ice cream.

WRONG.

Set up mini milestones (that she agrees to) by celebrating them. For example, if she can complete 10k steps daily, take her on a staycation nearby.

If she loses 5 pounds, you give her a spa date.

Keep the ideas and gifts fun and not exercise-related to make them enjoyable for both of you!

14. Choose Healthier Restaurants

Let’s face it – everyone eats out, but we can do some research beforehand to choose a healthier alternative.

15. Practice Self-Care

If you have followed me long enough, you know I am a big believer in self-care for both of you separately.

Encourage her to get this practice in.

For example, she may love reading every Saturday. If that is the case, give her space to do it while you go for a beer with the boys.

We need to spend time with ourselves doing things we like to believe that we are worthy of a healthy lifestyle.

16. Practice Affirmations Together

Print out some simple affirmations on health and wellness and recite them together daily.

You won’t believe how much this will do to her soul to have you alongside her in this journey to make her feel worthy and beautiful again.

17. Respect Her

Aging is part of the human process, and alongside that comes weight gain. Today, it’s her weight; tomorrow, it might be yours. So, learn to be accepting and respectful.

18. Focus On All The Other Things She May Have Given You

Sure, she was probably smaller when you first got together, but true beauty is skin deep, am I right?

She might have gone above and beyond for you in this relationship, so bear that in mind as you journey alongside her during this challenging time in her life.

Folks, we finally reached the tail end of the article on a girlfriend gaining weight!

It wasn’t easy to understand why she might be gaining weight, but I hope you leave this article feeling at least more empowered with some of the tips and tools I provided.

Love isn’t always easy, but remember that it is worth staying the course with your partner. Here’s to wishing you nothing but eternal love and happiness.

I hope to see you again in this space. See you real soon!

Frequently Asked Questions On Girlfriend Gaining Weight

What Do I Do If My Girlfriend Gained Weight?

Helping her out generally so she has time to go to the gym, support her by suggesting therapy if necessary or exercising and eating healthily together.

Weight gain isn’t always a bad thing so long as it is within a healthy and reasonable range. The key is to be empathetic when talking to her.

How Can I Help My Girlfriend Lose Weight?

Help her lose weight by the following:

1. Focus on wellness and overall health – not the number of the scale

2. View it as a problem for the team

3. Encourage home food where possible

4. Grocery shop together

5. Opt for physical dates

6. Encourage her to attend the gym with you

Is It Wrong To Tell My Gf To Lose Weight?

Yes and no. Telling her to lose weight to become more sexually desirable isn’t something you should do because it can hurt her feelings and self-esteem.

But there is no harm if you want to encourage healthy habits for food and exercise for the both of you to promote longevity.

What To Do When Your Partner Gains Weight?

Focus on your own behavior and this will rub off on her.

Numerous studies have shown that when one partner changes their wellness habits for the better, the other partner will follow suit fast.

Other solutions may include incorporating more physical exercise for your dates such as hiking or biking dates.

How Do I Reassure My Girlfriend She Isn’t Fat?

1. Compliment her about other aspects excluding looks

2. Remind her that she is beautiful the way she is

3. Encourage a healthy mindset i.e. frequent meditation for overall wellness

4. Replace sedentary dates with active ones such as mountaineering or rock climbing.

5. Practise self-care individually and as a couple.

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